omg....i JUST had this episode with my H while all you guys were writing this.
I'm at work, mind you - and he starts an R talk on the phone....
And the whole time he's talking...I'm thinking everything you guys mentioned above. Am I supposed to let him get his words out? Am I supposed to validate his feelings even though they are DEAD wrong? Am I supposed to take charge and hang up on him?
Don't know..I ended up letting him talk while repeatedly giving him the strong hint that I needed to get my work done???... But he's an ALL together different story.
But, as for you, tbart...showing your W that you have yourself under control, without retaliating would be the best course of action. Get out of defensive mode - like try not to even go there. I get stuck there alot.
I agree with Coach and Steady, on how to handle it.
