It's not permanent. He's still confused. At least he's recognizing it. Even if no one else is going to, I'm giving your H props for TRYING to do the right thing through confusion. Counseling is going to be hard, emotionally. And draining. I would suggest taking some time apart after C sessions so you can each reflect on what has happened during the session. That's up to you, of course, though. However, if reading all these books has taught me anything, it's that men need more space than women and value their alone time.
And props for YOU. You think you're failing at DBing, but let me let you in on a secret: there's no "perfect" DBer. We all change to what works. However, you keep mentioning the word "normal". Don't get too comfortable in that familiarity. SOMETHING happened that lead to your H feeling like this marriage was something he no longer wanted to do, so there's still an issue that needs to be resolved for both you and your H to be happy. Keep up the good work at the C to get to the root of that issue. The digging is going to feel like H-E-Double hockey sticks, but in the big picture, you do want your H to be content, correct? So it's worth it not to end up back where you started in a couple of months.
Hooray for you, meghunny. You are doing fabulously!
A little early to be asking, but here are my main concerns: 1. H doesn't want you to go on cruise alone because he's worried you'll meet someone else? 2. Has H reconsidered his position on going home with you along?
Me: 26 Ex: 27 Son: 5
Divorced: 3/2010 Each day is another opportunity to do it right.
