how do i keep my hope alive?

[trytryagain]

that he'd messed up too much and too many times, that he'd hurt my family and me for too long.

That's a bit harsh - although he may deserve that. Mostly I mean the family part. Who gives about your family...they aren't married to him. Your mom treated him badly, too. Does it matter who was first?

OTM, those are my H's words, not mine. i never told him i thought things were messed up beyond repair. if anything, i've let him know that while i was angry and hurt and felt that he'd never had to take responsibility for his actions, i also said i would consider seeing a MC together, just for the sake of seeing where it would/could go.

i also told him that my family's opinion is not my concern right now and that if he's going to use that as a factor in us splitting up, i find that to be a bit of a cop out.

maybe he's feeling like he's messed things up beyond repair, and i'm not saying it wouldn't take a long time to rebuild after what we've been through, but i don't know how to communicate that to him through the fog he seems to be in about the state of our M.