My husband went on a business trip to WA at the beginning of this month. He met a female co-worker there for the first time in person and spent some very late nights out with her. I was a little worried at the time and told him I didn't like him staying out all night with a single woman, but didn't make any accusations. Then the night he got back into town he started having late night phone calls and text messaging with her (I'm talking at 2:30 in the morning). He told me his second day back into town that he wanted to separate. I just discovered these phone calls a few days ago, but saw they began the night before he he told me about the separation.
I told him I felt it was very inappropriate to be having late-night conversations with female co-workers, since he is married and has a family. He disagreed, said they were just friends, and accused me of being controlling and not wanting him to have friends. But the texting and calls stopped for about 2 days. Well, they've started up again last night.
I don't have any proof of a PA happening when he was in WA, but I think there is possibly an EA going on. But he is in an all-fired rush to move us up to WA now, and he wants me to move despite the separation he wants. Previously to this business trip he hated the OW, would complain about her to me all the time, to the point where he was calling her so many nasty names I found myself defending her even though I don't even know her. Now they're like best buds, though I doubt she knows the awful stuff he's said to me about her in the past.
I'm not sure what to do or how to handle this. Do I confront him again and tell him I want him to stop, or do I just silently collect information for our possible D? I have cell phone records of hundreds of late-night text messages just from the last few days alone. I'm afraid if I push to much he'll find more covert ways of communicating with her and I'll be out my evidence of what's going on.
