During the month of March, I made tremendous strides in getting a life. I built a stronger relationship with my son, began working out and exercising, regained a positive attitude with all things excluding my wife, and generally began having fun with life again.
My wife and I live in the same house in different bedrooms. She started an online friendship which crossed the line sexually in the January period leading to our eventual meltdown when she shared with me that 1) she had reconnected with an old acquaintance and 2) she wanted to have sex with him. The meltdown nearly broke our relationship as I could not control my emotions and wavered on the - not in my house vs. patient husband routines. As time went on, I was able to contain my emotions and have been playing the patient husband routine much better.
All along, she has said this is just about sex while I have maintained that this is an emotional affair which she is looking to obtain something that I had not been providing in our relationship. Recently, she has begun to call it an emotional affair - I think to make me feel better.
This weekend, my wife will be flying out to have her weekend with the OM.
She told me last weekend that when she returns, she wants things to slowly fall back into place so that we can build our new relationship.
She doesn't want to talk about any of it - "that's when we get in trouble" she said.
I am not looking for advice on my move - I know what I am going to do. No, I am looking for input on how people have overcome emotional affairs. Is there a time for action and a time later in the rebuilding for talking?
My wife has been the one to suck it up in the past and I don't doubt this is my opportunity to do the same to save our relationship.
If this indeed was just sex and she goes through a period of detachment, when is a good time to involve the MC?
When she says "let's go slow", from your experience, what exactly does that mean?
