She Say's She Want's Out Of The Marriage

[steady]

tbart you bring a really interesting point. Sometimes I wish I had stood up more and called her on some of her B.S. But then I look and see she actually buys her twisting and embellishing of the truth as being reality - so I would have just knocked her further back in or would I have? I can't answer this question.

In the beginning of my sitch I would have just said validate and don't push back. Now I'm not so sure. Maybe peace2u will chime in and give you her perspective.

I can't just validate what she says and leave it at that. Don't I have to have a moving forward from the validation point? I will not argue or be defensive about anything, but I have to say something about something don't I?

Sure you can just validate and leave it at that. It's not up to you to move it forward at this point. Do you think she wants to move it forward in the same direction that you consider forward? I imagine she may rain down on you, but then what? What could she possibly do after that? Either she will leave everything neutral, move toward separation or move toward reconciliation. What other choices are there?