Wife in MLC, filed in early March

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MY XH filed 5/08--D was final 3/09
I had already saw a good L for advice just in case
once they file, everything starts--IN this state, there is NO way to stop the D unless maybe you contest it--not sure about that
I would NOT SIGN anything at a notary--I would tell W You will carefully read the papers and get L advice and get back to her
Ususally the MLCer wants this part over QUick and as least expensive as possible
b/c many of us dont want the D , we may initaiaaly want to agree to things that would NOT be good for us
dent agree to anything
yes the MLCer will get upset -throw a tantrum -tell us thats why their leaving ect
I still suggest to stand your ground here
D is Not easy b/c of this
usually once they file, unless they put a stop to it ,,they are serious..so remember just take care of you financially
some eventually still come back..many will not
also, I hgad my L put ion the papers as well as verbally tell H L
Wife does not want D
I asked H to do counseling thru L
Initally he agreed and signed that in papers-- then balked
the bottom line is the papers dont really hold true after D
MY H did not keep any of the agreement s he signerd from childcare to money
so again, try to think of your self here

and get good legal advice
peace