Quick question and an update. Should I continue to post here or on my original thread?
Update - W sisters weekend went well except the flowers never were delivered. She really likes the new treadmill. Still thinking about more baby step romantic things that I can try.
One issue that has come up. Last fall, I began seperating our accounts. Still keeping the joint credit card accounts that I pay each month. But I now have seperate bank and savings accounts. I did not close our joint bank accounts - just stopped putting any money into them. I also stopped checking them on a regular basis - I considered that her money. This week I got a notice from the bank - the joint accounts went to 0. She's actually overdrawn on the checking account.
I haven't said a word. I'm not sure what to do at this point. One side says let her ask about the accounts, then I can tell her that I am just moving in the direction she told me to go last fall - that since she told me that we shouldn't be married, I'm protecting myself. On the other side - will I jeapordize the progress I have made? Should I transfer some money over to cover the overdrafts?
Reading about the "fog" and that she may not even remember what she said to me last year. Is this a step to break through all of that?
