My H left me 3 times and his only explantions were that he did not want to be married The third time he left, I bought Michelles book and starting implempentig everything she discusssed The hardest was the detachmant but I poured myself into seeking things that I could do to make our marriage work as well as goals for me. My husband started telling me that he didnt love me but when I pulled away, he would pull back towards me as if nothing was wrong. He honored his word and filed for a divoce in 2006. I stayed cool but friendly and resfuse to go to any of his court dates. I did get a lawyer to represent me but when we spoke, I reminded him that this was his divorce and something I would not particape in as I didnt want it. My husband game home within 6 months of the divorce being finaled and we have been together since. I say new comer because my sons wife just left him. I gave him Michelles book and he is trying these techniques. He still struggles with detachment but he is getting there. He has made a few goals invoving his education as well committing to a plan to get on an an aiplane and come and visit. I am back here after so many years to offer support and hope and try to learn from everyone as well so that I can help my son. Kee
