It has been a while since I was here. I have referred tons of people here that are sadly going through their own R issues since it is this site that helped me truly survive and come out on top during my D. I am counting on my old DB friends here to get me through yet another mess that has crept into my life...

You can certainly find my old posts if you want the whole saga but I will try to summarize...
Was with my XH since I was 17, for 8 years, 2 of those married. Had the beginnings of the American dream, but also fertility problems and money issues. Got preg after 2 years of trying and then he left when I was at 3 mos. for an OW. They lived together and she was quite a piece of work, wanting to be a part of everything in my D3's life and my XH seemeed to go along with anything she wanted. I GAL and returned to school, got a good job, moved out of my parents house, and was basically ready to face the world.

Enter...complication. 3 mos. ago, XH and OW broke up and he moved in with his parents. Started being nice to me at drop off and pick up and actually replied to calls and texts as needed for our D3. Was very hopeful for him to get his life on track but had no expectations for 'us'. I really thought he was a lost cause as far as any kind of relationship was concerned...We had chatted a few times once he got off OW's cell plan but nothing too major other than enjoying talking as friends. This past weekend, he texted and seemed like he wanted to chat. (I always try to end convo via text with one or two replies, he continued making convo)We talked about almost everything that night. He admitted that he has loved me all along (3 1/2 years of separation/divorce) and that he was not allowed to talk to me b/c of OW. He wanted to be friends and possibly more. Lots of talking about how great I am and how I should hate him and how he doesn't deserve me to still like him. I told him that I forgave him long ago for what he did and that I hope we can be friends. He made indications that he really wanted to be more. He even asked if I thought we could ever try again. We were up until almost 5am talking that night and I was in absolute disbelief that I might just have a chance of having my H back.

The next day (Fri.) I dropped off D3 at his house and it was a little awkward. He had told me he prob wouldn't be able to look at me and I really wasn't too offended. I asked via text if he regretted talking about anything and he said he didn't and was glad we could. He liked talking to me. Saturday we chatted a bit but nothing major. Sunday I picked up D3 and we hung out for an hour and a half (usually pick up is a 10 minute deal) but no chatting b/c of D3 and XMIL was there. Since then, very little chatting on Sunday night, nothing Monday and tonight I texted to see how his day was and he barely replied. Back to one word answers...

Any insight would be greatly appreciated!


Trust in yourself...you are the only one that can guide your future...

Me-28
X-30 QLC-just separated from OW after 3 yrs
M-3yrs
Tog-8yrs
D-3yrs
Bomb-8/5/06