I guess what i'm trying to ask is when I get home and we finally have this converstation, how do I respond? She's going to rain down fire and I'm going to validate. Where do I go with the rest of the convesation? I have my own complaints and hurts that have surfaced since this started, but I will not do there or bring that stuff up.

I can't just validate what she says and leave it at that. Don't I have to have a moving forward from the validation point? I will not argue or be defensive about anything, but I have to say something about something don't I?

Married 18
Me 39
W 37
D 15
D 5
Divorce Filed 8 April 2010
Beginning of Reconcile 8 Sept