Are regrets when you end a separation normal?

[june72]

OTMT,
I think you are starting to feel hopeless. Don't.
Will things turn around? Probably- persistence and time.

While you may think that your efforts are fruitless they are not. You wife is carefully watching and evaluating. She is scared to show her love for fear of being hurt. She probably has built up a wall.

A woman whose feeling are easily hurt is one that loves you. makes sense?

You will have to put forth an effort for quite a while before you see results. Ask anyone this is the way it works. Persistence pays. Self-doubt fails.

I like the WOA idea. You could write a kind note and list all the things you love about her and fond memories (the birth of your children is always a good idea). With the card you could give her a "re-commitment ring" and tell her you are removing the pending D. Regardless of how she feels you will be steadfast in your commitment and love to her and you will NEVER utter the 3 month D again. (OK, of course if she becomes a totally nutty crazy dangerous woman or severe drug addict or serial cheater- different story, if that would occur all bets off but no need to tell her this)
You can tell her you have taken a journey of rediscovery and awakening and you now realize that your first short meeting that you felt some thing. Something that thought would make the two of you bond, something special. You can tell her you have no regrets, you would marry her again and this time, in hindsight, situations would have been handled differently.
Women love honest genuine heartfelt sincerity. They love a man they will be vulnerable to them, like a dirty little secret. They love special looks, special moments, they like to catch you looking at them with a smile.

Women need constant reassurances, Men-IDK, I think it's different for them. I am not a man so I do not know. I think men need to be respected, and admired and appreciated, if I were to guess.

OK, I am rambling.

Fill her up with love and affection and eventually it will be returned. Certain of that. This woman does love you. She WANTS to love you she is unsure and scared.

No progress will ever be made till you remove the D decree.