After H first said he wanted to separate (the morning after he got home from WA and we spent a long night of lovemaking) he still would try to grab me (my breasts, my butt) and after it happened a few times I finally responded that if he wants to separate from me he can't use me sexually at the same time. I guess I was still smarting from him basically making sure to get laid first before dumping me. So in the two weeks since there's been no sex, or boob grabbing, etc. Well, yesterday he tried to initiate sex and I just asked him "What are you doing?" like it wasn't obvious! But I just felt uncomfortable and didn't know what to do, what was the right thing to do. I don't want to be used, but one of his complaints about me and our relationship is the lack of intimacy. So should I be having sex with him or not? I do have my own sexual needs and I like sex, I just don't know if I should be having sex with him while all this is going on.
ETA: And more confusing is that he keeps saying he wants a platonic, non-romantic relationship with me (where we live together and parent DS but that's it) yet tries to initiate sex. I really am getting confused by the mixed-messages. I just can't understand what it is he wants. Not sure he even knows!
