And you need to get over this 100% my type. You married her. Find what you love about her and let that grow. And treat her as a woman.
Thanks for the continued advice CB.
For the "my type" problem - I can't MAKE things in my body react just because I want to. I'm finding more in her body to love as I get closer, but she wants me to say "by action" with my body that I lust for her 100%. I tell her that I love ... and while this is honest and I love sharing that, she wants more or a D!
If we had been screwing around before we married, it may have been. I didn't see her until our wedding night...I've found attraction and love for her and I don't have any problem being intimate or pleasing her/me.
I am mentally opening myself up to that, and it's working. I can't say how much chemistry I can make, but I am trying. I'm just not there YET.
I get the idea that every woman wants to feel beautiful. I want her to. She wants me to think she's more beautiful than any other woman around - seems a bit vain. I want to FEEL that way, but I don't think it is true.
When I get up, I shower, use some gel, look for some clothes that look nice on me. When she gets up, she grabs whatever. She's been wearing the same shirt and pants for 3/7 days this week. How can I think that beautiful? Doesn't she have to do something to look nice, too? Again, I just can't see the fairness in this. If she wants to be the hottest thing around to me, doesn't she have to help me out, too?
