I do think that many of us have settled for aspects of our relationships in the past.
Most of you don't know me, but I will tell you that one thing I told myself after my first marriage ended was that I would no longer settle for an "ok" in anything.
Maybe you think it a pollyanna'ish idea. I do not.
Settling is accepting a spouse back in to your home, even though they treat you the same way they did before they left.
Settling is accepting a spouse who professes to be unable to be physically intimate with you without telling you the honest reason why.
Settling is allowing someone to point the finger of blame at YOU for the relationship problems, either then or now, and accepting that they might be right.
Yes, I believe that many settle. And no, I do NOT think settling is ever a good thing. EVER.
Settling is not the same as accepting our spouses strengths and weaknesses. None of us are perfect. We all have our flaws and shortcomings.
Settling is KNOWING that a spouse is unwilling/unable to treat you the way you KNOW you need to be treated, and accepting them back anyway.
Sorry some have taken my words the wrong way.
As I mentioned before, this is exactly why I stopped posting here to Kalni in the first place. Sometimes it's just better to have those around who will look for and find the positives.
Blessings,
Bill
"Don't tell me the sky is the limit when there are footprints on the moon."
