One thing I forgot to add.

W's best friend (the one aiding her in all this and with his own affair baggage) is moving in to the country with my wife in 2 weeks.

It's just intel, can I use this in my favour? i.e. when exposing to family?

Separated: March 1 * Affair discovered: 20-March * Exposed: 27 March * Def. separation: May 1st *

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