1. I don’t really get too into traditional sex roles, but one job I do consider to be a W’s arena is decorating (mostly). Is it weird that we have no pictures up of our families except the ones I put of my nieces and nephews? 2. Is it weird after almost 10 years of M, no photos of our wedding are displayed anywhere in our house? 3. Is losing your engagement ring and not tearing the house apart looking for it normal?
Just jumping in with my answers...
1. Not necessarily. We don't have any family pictures up in our house. Even before the crisis we only had one picture of the two of us displayed. Neither one of us is close with our families and I don't like overly personal things on display. I do take a lot of pictures but they stay in the computer or in albums.
2. Again, I don't think so. I hate walking into someone's house to be confronted with the wall of wedding photos. I'm ok with one tasteful photo, but see my answers above. My parents had one 5x7 photo of the wedding party pinned up on the corkboard in the kitchen along with the rest of the family photos and that's all. They've been married for 32 years. Plus, if your W is uncomfortable with her weight it's totally understandable that she doesn't want to look at photos of herself.
3. I would freak out if I lost jewelry but it doesn't sound like she's ever been interested in it. It's bothering you a lot more and then it bothers you that it doesn't bother her. If you knew from the beginning that she wouldn't have cared if you got her a cheap ring then you only got her that ring because it's what you wanted. That's fine as long as you don't project your feelings and values onto her.
How different is she now than when you married? How different are you?
Last edited by pearlharbr; 03/23/1011:46 PM.
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