Really great food for thought!
I find that lately I've stopped analyzing my H's behaviors so much, and don't really feel like figuring out where I am either..not sure why. I figured things were percolating within me and things would become more apparent later.

I can certainly see where I've gone through the stages of grief, am still learning detachment, definitely have triggers(financial/effects on children) for falling into anger/resentment occasionally. I'm still working on forgiving absolutely and completely by becoming more compassionate in thought and word.

I'm working on me. I'm seeing that my daughters' are still processing everything and going through the stages of grief as well(D12 is still very much in anger).

Its pretty awesome to see so many of us on the path of growth- at whatever stage, moving forward while supporting each other and helping each other along. Thank you to all of who have supported and are supporting me!


M44 H46 T21 Married 16y
D14 D12
Bomb 12/08(EA), (PA/Separation)1/09 to 5/09
Home/MC 5/09 to 12/09
Leaves 12/09 Files for Divorce
Divorce final 6/30/10.