You have to trust me on this...she IS having an affair. When I accessed my W's email accounts I was blown away. Hundreds of pages of love notes and cybersex. You're probably right, she will screw up at some point, but it may be too late. For what, I don't know.
Karma does have a way of working and to be honest with you, you might be better off not knowing the details like I learned. But to reiterate, she is having an affair. Probably an ex-boyfriend.
Oh and what is too extreme about tapping into her computer? She is totally disrupting your life and lying to your face.
I feel for ya, brother. Hang in there.
MICrazy
Me: 45 W: 43 M: 10 T: 15 S7 S3
My Sitch: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubb...823#Post1942823