Kalni,
I do have a question for you. If it turns out that he did in deed "settle" for you or that you are his second choice, does that change things for you? Or your goals? (I have no clue if he did "settle" or has you as second choice- no idea)

I think I have read this concern of yours before, if I recall correctly.

I do not need the answer. I am asking you for you. So honestly, I am not expecting a response to this.

M38, H37
S3, S7
Together 15 yrs
Married 8 yrs
Bomb July 2008
Inhouse separation
"I hate you" "We are over" (too many times to count)
Reconciled Sept 2009 (still worth it)