LR, I haven't read your whole thread so missing some of the background here, but sending hugs your way. It sounds like H is letting you down right now, when what you deserve is a knight in shining armour! I hope things shift for you...hugs!
me: 42 | STBXH: 41 | T: 18 | M: 10 | separation: Jan 3, 2010 | they deserve better: S7 & D4 current thread: http://tinyurl.com/3y8sxcp .: first breathe, then heal, then start LIVING :.
Job at my place didnt work out, so annoying as everyone wanted him to come, but HR (three witches round a cauldron) wont allow couples to work together even though he'd be contracting and me permanant!
Sis thing just comes out in passing, I talk about something my parents say and he chips in from my sisters pov.. I dont wanna know, easter was the boundary for her to be friends with both of us, its fast approaching but I feel sick to the stomach about how Im gonna enforce this one.. but we will wait and see I suppose.
Im getting enough sleep but working long hours wears me out so.. Clocks change saturday so lighter nights will hopefully really help.
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W 47 H 47 M 24 T 30
Once lost but now found and happily married again!
Disappointing about the job. I hope that your H comes up with some solution soon. more hugs.
me: 42 | STBXH: 41 | T: 18 | M: 10 | separation: Jan 3, 2010 | they deserve better: S7 & D4 current thread: http://tinyurl.com/3y8sxcp .: first breathe, then heal, then start LIVING :.
I'm sorry I have been a bit into my own crisis the past couple of days, but I'm catching up here.
I understand the doormat feeling - you know I do! And all I can suggest is we need to make some 180's - this time for US. That means setting boundaries like we never have before.
So I know this is emotional and you're feeling at the end of your rope. YOu have held this thing together now for the past year and although H has done some work too, you know you do deserve many thank yous for all you have done. Saved the marriage, basically.
But now it's time to build Rabbit's self respect. Can you come up with some boundaries you'd like to set and toss them around with us? Can we help you focus on the right wording, timing, and kick your butt to do it?
Dont know where to start, I am beyond fed up! Having trouble with my yard owner about paying my bills, she plans on putting my beautiful girl out in the field till I'm up to date. I'm worried sick about her, came home really down and explained how I feel to H who has just told me I'm stupid she's a horse. I honestly just don't want to be with him right now! Regardless of how sillyhe thinks I'm being me hurting his male pride is more important.. What about me? I'm afraid I just lost it and said I'm sorry I think I must have been too silly a long time ago meaning even though it wasn't said fighting for him at all... I am just hurt and very very mad at the moment, he won't ask my parents for help for her cos she's a horse and if he don't get a job it's not going to fix the problem.
Don't know what to do anymore Im all washed out!
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W 47 H 47 M 24 T 30
Once lost but now found and happily married again!
Time to stand up for yourself. Your feeling are important here and you are ready for him to hear your feelings. You are ready for hto listen without judgement and without going into his own issues. Time to sit him down and ask him not to say a word, but to imagine how you feel and then give you a BIG HUG.
