And mb28 I really would strongly suggest you read Chapter 1 of Divorce Remedy "The Divorce Trap"
MWD makes it VERY clear that divorce will not make anything any better and often makes things worse, you really need to read that chapter.
Allen, I know that you mean well, I really do. I think that mb is all too aware of the down side of D. But the reality is that she may have to take a break from aggressive DBing in order to get grounded within herself. She has to focus on what she can control right now...and that does not include D, H, or OW.
me: 42 | STBXH: 41 | T: 18 | M: 10 | separation: Jan 3, 2010 | they deserve better: S7 & D4 current thread: http://tinyurl.com/3y8sxcp .: first breathe, then heal, then start LIVING :.