The EA bomb dropped by misdirected text

[SoftHeart]

OP,

I appreciate your feedback very much! My instinct is the same, but the L advised differently...so, as many opinions as possible are welcome.

I feel the need because of the potential H blow-up scenario...esp. with the NC in effect due to my having had enough of H's previous spewing behavior (blame, blame, blame!). To his credit though, I WAS acting/reacting badly (being needy and still trying to convince him to pursue MC and reconciliation: "but we had such a great life" stuff).

My 180 has been to stick to 'as if', staying totally calm and peaceful and positive in all situations. I totally agree with H that I am often very opinionated, somewhat critical/confrontational, and negative at times (graduate studies will do that to ya!)... AND this is something that I have identified as needing work on in my own LBS/DB journey. Listening, calmly, not interjecting or interrupting, PMA, etc.

I guess I'm concerned about the fallout from being confronted and keeping my cool. But perhaps this IS the work: handling it as (if) it comes with grace, peace and loving detachment...

SH