H came home late last night and looking for dinner as he walked in. My best friend was here and we looked at each other like..uh, well you weren't here so you get no food. He made his own dinner.
this is good...ONLY, if you did it right. and depending what your goal is. Did you guys look at each other like, what on earth does he think..he don't deserve any food, are you kidding??
OR, did you look at each other like, oh, oops, that is unfortunate, but there would be dinner for you if you are here at dinner time.
do you see the difference? it's kinda hard to type emotions and looks on here.
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He wasn't very social...well who would be when you are out cheating and then come home to the family you are betraying? Funny thing is he wasn't on his blackberry - prob cuz friend was here but I'm sure he was dying not being on it (nope not mindreading)
here is where I see the negatives. hey, if he doesn't get on his blackberry, why not invite people over all the time! lol
also, in regards to people mentioning to kick him out. that is definitely an option, although one I never recommend unless you are truly prepared for it and depending on your goal.
What I think you should do for sure, is set a boundary for him out of respect for both you and the kids, to not have contact with her in the home, and if he needs to have contact, then he needs to leave the home and do it elsewhere. and then decide a consequence, which might be getting kicked out.
Me 33 H 34 S9 S3 M 6 yrs (2gether 11 yrs) EA/PA 1/2006 DB 5/2006 H wants D 6/2006 H wants ME 8/2006 H "said" PA/EA over 8/2006 H erased OW off phone! 2/2007
"It is far better 2 choose humility & change oneself, than 2 wait in vain trying 2 chang someone else."
