romeo, I'm assuming you learned the 5 love languages, and that hers is gifts?

I think if things were diff, being gone 2 weeks isn't awful, but because of her issues and because of the inconsistency of everything, I think a week is a good plan as well. Somehow you want to make it her idea, because it sounds like you used to be controlling, and even though you aren't now, she's still thinking you are.

not sure how you could accomplish that, and you've probably already sent her an email. I thought the one you wrote was alright. or even state this as something that you are feeling strongly about...

"W, that is a great idea for you to finally get a vacation. I also really appreciate you asking me how I feel about it, that is very important to me. I think you both will have a good time, but it is also important to me if you could consider scheduling for just 1 week. I would hate to not see DD for 2 whole weeks, especially how young she is and how hard it's been for us to transition her back and forth."


Me 33 H 34 S9 S3
M 6 yrs (2gether 11 yrs)
EA/PA 1/2006
DB 5/2006
H wants D 6/2006
H wants ME 8/2006
H "said" PA/EA over 8/2006
H erased OW off phone! 2/2007

"It is far better 2 choose humility & change oneself, than 2 wait in vain trying 2 chang someone else."