My husband is addicted to an emotional affair

[mrbt]

Hi 8,

I understand your desire to contact the other woman. I went through the same thought process. I found the other man's cell phone number in an e-mail.

One day I thought "why should he be allowed to remain anonymous and think what he is doing is harmless?" and "Maybe if being involved with someone else's wife included being harassed by the husband, it would be less fun for OM."

So, I sent him a text message late one night and he denied everything. I sent a text message weeks later, after learning there was still contact, and he started giving me marriage advice.

It didn't really accomplish anything. I think it just pissed off my wife (she couldn't tell me why she was pissed because she'd have to admit being in contact with him to do so).

I would recommend not contacting her - don't think it would get you anywhere.