"He laughed. ..but it's not really funny..."

you should have told him that.

dont let him get away with stuff like this any more. its a large part of what contributed to your current position.

there's the old saying of, "if you keep doing the same thing, you will keep getting the same results".

I think there's a related thing in marriage, of "if keep allowing the same behaviour, you will keep getting treated the same".

My current status: june 2006. Wife ran out and filed D.
Finalized Jan 11, 2010, after 12.5 years M.
3 wonderful sons caught in the middle