She Say's She Want's Out Of The Marriage

[steady]

bart, that response was fine. Don't take any of what she wrote as meaning anything. One thing you could have added was you understand that she is angry and you understand why she is very angry. That's validating.

I think the best time to address those issues is after a cooling off period for the both of you. To go head first into them as soon as you get home in my opinion would be a mistake. Don't initiate it. If she does, just validate her feelings.

One other thing...don't go into a list of the things you know you've done wrong. Just address the issues she brings up. For every thing you bring up you will be bringing them back up in her mind. You might also add things she isn't even thinking about and that will add more fuel to the fire.

Don't talk about your changes. That will backfire. Just keep doing the positive things and she will see the changes. Believe me, her eyes are on you right now. Don't tell her, show her.

The hardest thing you're going to have to do is to act as if you are detached and ok with the whole thing.

Don't try to convince her of anything. Stay away from your urge to defend or explain yourself. Never mind trying to point out any of her flaws.

My opinion, and you'll find this hard to see, is the physical separation will be good for both of you.

Remember - DO NOT PURSUE. She can't chase someone who isn't moving away or at least not following her.

You need to dig deep for what you need to do. I'm sure you've dug deep many times before. Find it inside yourself and do it. There is no maybe, I'll try or I can't....there's only DO.