Bworl, Thank you! I got blasted on another thread for posting my opinion that was less than rosy. A true friend is not one who sugar coats things but is kindly blunt and honest about what really is. I think many that were posting less than an optimistic view has started to move away from this thread a bit.
Often, K posts something about her disappointment I feel, it gets turned back to her- well you are not being patient enough, kind enough, understanding enough. He is trying in his own way etc.
I, personally see her slowing sinking in a greater despair IMO.
Bluntly put- it takes 2 people to make a marraige work two people folks. Kalni CAN NOT carry the weight of this on her own. I hope her husband makes some progress. To me- from my view- I see him only doing the minimum to keep the status quo.
And the status quo sucks. Some day, some time, some where Kalni has to be first. Enough coddling the man. The man has to act like a husband.
Will there be healing and recovery? I don't know. I can not say. I do know that Kalni's sad moods are valid and totally justified. That her concerns are invalidated by her husband.
If he can not has sex with this woman, own up to his errors. Where are they? Stuck in a very unhealthy cycle.
Kalni, I am sorry you are in such a bad spot with this.
Last edited by june72; 03/23/1008:02 PM.
M38, H37 S3, S7 Together 15 yrs Married 8 yrs Bomb July 2008 Inhouse separation "I hate you" "We are over" (too many times to count) Reconciled Sept 2009 (still worth it)
