Thank you kissak, Jack & SA. Your opinions and encouragement keeps me going.
The latest? WH calls me and asks "Did you get my e-mail?" I played dumb and asked "Which one" (we exchanged business related emails today). He said "you know what I wrote about myself" I replied "Yes I did". So obviously he was expecting an answer.
His e-mail to me:
In my heart I know who I am. I found out that if one wants others to forgive him, first, he needs to be able to forgive himself. I have been trying to do that over the past several months... it’s not easy. I am simply telling you that for me to be able to go on, personally and in business, I have to rebuild confidence in myself.
I may not deserve your trust. I may not deserve your help and I am not asking for your help. I know how difficult is for you. I have to deal with your distrust in me on my own. And only time can repair that.
Please know that I don’t lie to you now and I will not in the future. I have never cheated in business and I never will. I don’t believe what happened last year, changes me — after all of the past years — from who I was into a liar and a cheater forever. If I believed that I may as well pack up...
What If I reply:
Deep in my heart I also feel that the man I loved and respected all my life is still in there. There is nothing that would make me happier then to be able to trust you again. It's good to hear that you will never lie to me again. I believe that trust could be earned back. By actions not by words.
Opinion anyone?
Last edited by Mila; 03/23/1010:48 PM.
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So what do I do with him....he is really making a big issue with his trust thing. He reminds me of a little boy that needs approval and wants everyone to like him.
If I send my reply will I do more damage or more good? I want to be his friend (DB), I'm stuck being his business partner.
Maybe I want to show him that trust could be repaired once he stops @#$#$%% her....
I did say in my proposed email that trust could be earned back by actions not by words.
If he gets that by actions I mean no @#$%&* OW
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Personally, I don't know why you need to respond at all.
Seriously, this man is whacked out of his f'ing mind.
He's banging a customer, and sends you this sililouqy about personal forgiveness?
Yuk...
The only response I have for him would be something along the lines of
"There is no separation between personal and professional integrity. One without the other means you have none. Lie and cheat or not professionally, you have done both personally and continue to do so. You have zero integrity with me, or with anyone else you are not currently doing in bed. Save your laments for someone easily fooled by words disguised as meaning."
Bill
"Don't tell me the sky is the limit when there are footprints on the moon."
