A new battle begins

[Hope4us]

Tristan, Like Bond said, she's going to have to understand that you're not beating her up about it, but for YOU to heal from her betrayal, it will take a long time. This isn't her timeline, it's yours.

And for someone to try to convince you that YOU don't need what you need to heal because it makes THEM uncomfortable just isn't going to cut it.

Not saying beat her up about it, but calmly discuss it with her. And 2 hours of this stuff at 2 am is not good. Maybe you could see if she'd be more receptive to setting aside one time each week or two to have a discussion where she answers your questions. And put a time limit on it. Say.. one hour.

This stuff is emotionally exhausting, for both of you. But it can't be all you discuss. She will probably be more ok with it if you tell her you still have questions YOU need answered to be able to move on, but that you don't want it to be the only thing you talk about.....and then suggest the once per week or two idea.