thanks for the advice.

i moved the thread here because i thought the newcomers forum was just for intros only.
i figure i would move to a specific forum to find answers or advice for my situation.
but agreed.

if this is his decision, then it will give me much to think about when we go to court.

i have been handling things just as you described.
no confrontation.
h just throws a temper tantrum like a child!
you can see that it is making him more angry.
is that what i want to do tho?

btw, just a thought. in some ways, it feels like an EA between h and his mother.
he calls her every single day.
this is why i often refer to her as the OW.

dumped.