One day at a time....

[pearlharbr]

Sounds like you've gotten great advice from everyone. I had a bit of a rough time when I went out of town by myself and left BF home alone. And also when he went for his first business trip even though OW never travelled with him.

I told him I was anxious about the upcoming trip and asked him to call every night (he does that every day here so I know he's still at the office and in the past he has always done so whenever he travels except when he's out of cell coverage). We did spend some quality time rockin' and rollin' before departure.

And this is the key for me: I've decided that I'm not going to worry about it anymore. He knows that if he does it again I am done, no questions asked. He knows that I will find out because I have no problem asking his boss or coworkers to verify his story, I have access to all his accounts, and I found out the last time so I'm certainly no dummy. Now it's up to him. It's his choice to be trustworthy or not.

Not that I don't worry occasionally. But I remind myself that I'm not his mother / chaperone. He's a big boy and his actions have consequences, both bad and good. When he does call every night and sends me copies of his credit card bill and identifies all the numbers on his call log then I thank him, cuddle him, get him special treats, etc.