I find it odd how often we marginalize everything that happens with an adulterous relationship.
What exactly makes the relationship K's husband had with this OW a lie? As Maria has shared the bits and pieces, it seems as though this was infatuation and deep emotional feelings. Isn't that in fact what K struggles with?
DB'ers, we don't get to have it both ways. Not everything that is done outside the marriage is automatically false and less than what it appears to be. Sometimes people stray because they are unhappy with themselves and looking for more.
In some strange way we hope to make our friends here feel better about themselves by making stuff up? Has K's husband even one time yet expressed that what he had with the OW was a lie, was fake, was not intense, was not emotional?
There are legitimate questions to be answered.
Maria, I have stayed silent for some time, mostly because I did not want my skepticism to taint whatever positive progress you felt was being made.
A man who will not be physically intimate with the woman he claims to love is not being truthful. You all can make up whaever stories you want to explain his reticence away, but as a man, I"m telling you - something here stinks to high heaven.
K, I know you have at least one friend from this community who would tell you that you should not be settling for what you already had before. You KNOW this.
It sounds strangely to me as though you are accepting less than what you should have to accept. Where is his progress?
...retreating back to the shadows....
Bill
"Don't tell me the sky is the limit when there are footprints on the moon."
