"Another thing that has helped me these last few days is that I realized that my H is suffering too. Don't get me wrong, I think he is the one that is causing his own suffering right now and he can't see that. That is one reason I think he is pushing for the D, in his mind he thinks all his pain and guilt will go away. So for me having a little sympathy for his pain, has helped me to not hold onto so much anger."
Compassion is a good thing. As you can see, it will help you move your focus off of him and onto yourself. This is his drama, his chaos. One word of advice: Don't try to convince him yourself. You cannot reason with the irrational.
"This OW is a gem isn't she. I truly believe that my H will see right through her some day and regret everything that he has done."
He will! Not as long as he has you to blame however. He needs tocome to this realization himself. I have read here lots of times where FWS says "one day, it just hit me" how crazy this all was.
"If you strike me down, I will become more powerful than you can possibly imagine!" 1st thread
