New to this Community seeking advice

[JR09]

Michelle!

So good to hear from you. Yesterday was S11's birthday. I tried to call several times but I think the boys turned the phone off by mistake. I just emailed S11 as well as my W to tell her I DID call to wish him a happy birthday.

S11 is my sensitive son. he knows what's going on but doesn't voice it. He doesn't say much over the phone probably because he's biting his tongue, and also because if he speaks his mind, he'll cry. Anyway, I love my boys so much.

What you said about my W is probably very accurate. I hope you are right about her still loving me. Sometimes I wonder. It's been 22 months since she left. Time stopped when she left. Like you said: consistency, loving, patience. That's the key for me.

I learned a great deal about being patient, that's for sure. Now, I am sensitive to how couples talk to each other. Sometimes I'd like to chime in and tell one or the other that it doesn't matter who is right or wrong. 22 months and a lot of combat stress therapy have changed me immensely. If only my W could see the new me, or even experience the new me. If only...

I hope this finds you well too Michelle. I sure appreciate the time you spend "watching over me". I pray you also have battle buddies who give you life the same way you give me life when I'm down in the pits. I'm sure you have true battle buddies on this board. THANKS AGAIN. Army Strong.

JR