The dreaded LIMBO

[4luv]

Allen,

Probably would have been best to come on Sunday instead but it didn't work for my schedule. I had already arranged a babysitter for my son.

I thought about what you said: When your partner shows blatant disrespect and you continue interction you are allowing your partner to abuse you. The best way to demonstrate that you will not tolerate this is to END the INTERACTION.

IN the protection phase part that I was reading, Penny says that cordial conversation can do more harm than no contact. I thought that I was doing good on the going dim but I did let husband overstep boundaries this weekend. I thought that I was balancing the hard stance with the "being the better option" as well.

BTW, the swingers mention was over the phone and I did hang up on him.

So what do I need to do? Do I send him the email finally? The thing is I am not sure if he is still cheating with OW. In his mind he is single and free to live the life that he wants so my email that I drafted would be taken lightly by him. I was thinking that I would remain not initiating any calls to him. Being short on conversation when he calls me and only talk answer questions about son. Then after a week or two if he asks what is up with me tell him:

"I have been thinking and I have been patient but I realize that you are no more committed to putting your family first and being a husband than you were before I moved out. I want a husband that prioritizes his family. I married you and expected you to be my husband for life. This is obviously not want you want and I can no longer be in contact with you while you choose another lifestyle over me and your son. If you decide that you want to commit to me and your son only, then we can talk about improving our marriage and repairing our family. Until then, I don't have anything more to say to you."