Yup, he is stressed out beyond belief I am sure.

But he's inviting it.

And mb28 I really would strongly suggest you read Chapter 1 of Divorce Remedy "The Divorce Trap"

MWD makes it VERY clear that divorce will not make anything any better and often makes things worse, you really need to read that chapter.

I think he believes his guilt and shame will dissappear after he divorces... that will not happen either.

I would in any exchange refer to it as him "Divorcing your family". He seems to just think he's divorcing YOU.. when you divorce, you break up an entire family.