Ugg... I am unclear. It the trip only him or will business colleagues be also going. Will she be going also?
Can you go with him?
Hi June, The trip is only him, no work colleagues. She will not be going with him. She has a different job, had been doing part time work for my H's company at the time of the A. When he broke it off with her she made a big tearful scene of quitting but did not tell anyone why. So, there is no reason for her to have anything to do with this trip. I do believe (and have verified to the extent that I can) that my H has maintained NC since December. She sent him one email a few weeks ago that he did not respond to. So more than likely this has nothing to do with her.
Plus, the way he talks about her now... with disgust.... it does seem real. And, he is home almost all the time when not at work. And, he is making real efforts in the M and going to IC.
No, I can't go. I took off all the time I had available to me at my job when I was a shattered mess after discovering the PA in Nov.
I just don't feel ready for this emotionally and it is triggering me really badly.
A 180 for me would be to be acting like it's not big deal and look forward to time for myself and with the kids and to GAL. But, that's not really honest... so is that what you should do in piecing? or do you honestly say you are struggling and why... I know he will find it hard to hear that because he feels he is doing all the right things and I don't want to discourage him.
ugh is right June.... don't know what to do with this...
