Well things seem to get clearer for me.

I have noticed a pattern with my wife. She has cycled back to the behavior that she exhibited last summer. Almost exactly.
- Her lying has increased
- She's hitting the bars again even though she's on probation
- Instead of OM #2 occupying her time, it is now her computer/Facebook. She's back to not spending time with the kids.
- Little things like complaining that the clothes and toys she buys them are brought to my house. When she cycled closer to me it wasn't a problem. Now it's a problem again.
- Spending money on frivolous things and then complaining she doesn't have any money.
- Searching for OM to be the "one"

Fortunately I've been through this before but this time I know what I'm dealing with.