Ok more bad behavior on H part to report. I left yesterday to go to a friends house and I had a great time and a very nice dinner.
I came home didn't say much and went to bed. Younger son wakes me up and says, "dad is being a jerk mom" so I get up to see what's wrong. He had been drinking (3 beers and 2 glasses of wine in him) as usual.....
I go over to H (he is lying on the couch) and say, "what's going on why is son upset?" He starts complaining how son wants to play video games and how he was trying to sleep etc but in nasty tone. Then I uncover him and he has his blackberry in his hand and son starts saying, "dad you're just mad cuz you are caught " son is upset saying dad you are lying that's why you're mad!
H starts cursing and threatening to leave and I try to calm him down and say there is no need for your yelling. He starts saying he is going to take the house away from all of us and how he won't pay any of the bills. My older son just walked into the house when this was all going on.
He says to my older son, "just because I don't want to be married to your mother doesn't have anything to do with you and me." That hurt guys - really. Why do I even let that bother me...my H is disgusting.
He got up and mowed the lawn. I think he is going to go off again today. I feel so trapped
M44 H41 M20 T23 3 older teens Bomb Nov 09 "i'm not happy" EA Nov 09 w/coworker Another PA in Mar 10 I Filed Apr 10 D final Dec 10
I can understand this feeling. Contact me in the alt if you want some suggestions for seeing your options... sometimes what appear to be walls trapping you, are just gates that need to be opened.
Peace Bridge
PS.. too bad about him mowing the yard, I was really hoping you could find a good looking yard man.... on the bright side in a week when he's back it will need again!
Divorced 03/2010 Mom to two amazing kids
Taking the road less traveled because those encountered on the way may be just as unique.
well, I won't say why that all happened, you should know by now.
are you ready to quit yet? have you decided where you want your path to follow?
remember, both paths should practically look the same.
H does something...you shouldn't care.
H is rude...you continue to be full of life because you are worthy (and you DON'T play the..he throws it at me so I'll throw it at him game)
H is being stupid...you have your healthy boundaries in place an enforce them
AND you continue to create the best LUV ever by GALing, building your R with God, and looking within yourself to find the things that you need to make better. and you START being positive, not negative.
Me 33 H 34 S9 S3 M 6 yrs (2gether 11 yrs) EA/PA 1/2006 DB 5/2006 H wants D 6/2006 H wants ME 8/2006 H "said" PA/EA over 8/2006 H erased OW off phone! 2/2007
"It is far better 2 choose humility & change oneself, than 2 wait in vain trying 2 chang someone else."
That's what I'm working on ST. I'm trying to be positive with so much negativity around me. It's damn hard.
I thought for sure he'd skip out yesterday but he didn't. We went to run some errands with older son and then to lunch. He talks mostly to son and ignores me. I have to work on not letting that bother me bcuz it still does.
He was drinking again last night but I stayed away from any drama. I didn't care that he was on his blackberry and in no mood for his crap. I spent a while on the phone with a DB'er and the conversation was pleasant. He asked me, "who were you talking to?" I don't get that inquiry...you don't ask when you don't care.
I'm going to have a good day today!
Luv
M44 H41 M20 T23 3 older teens Bomb Nov 09 "i'm not happy" EA Nov 09 w/coworker Another PA in Mar 10 I Filed Apr 10 D final Dec 10
but keep working on the positivity. and your right, you don't ask questions when you don't care.
Me 33 H 34 S9 S3 M 6 yrs (2gether 11 yrs) EA/PA 1/2006 DB 5/2006 H wants D 6/2006 H wants ME 8/2006 H "said" PA/EA over 8/2006 H erased OW off phone! 2/2007
"It is far better 2 choose humility & change oneself, than 2 wait in vain trying 2 chang someone else."
H came home late last night and looking for dinner as he walked in. My best friend was here and we looked at each other like..uh, well you weren't here so you get no food. He made his own dinner.
He wasn't very social...well who would be when you are out cheating and then come home to the family you are betraying? Funny thing is he wasn't on his blackberry - prob cuz friend was here but I'm sure he was dying not being on it (nope not mindreading)
He came into the bedroom to say, "Luv I'm leaving"...he usually mumbles going out the door.
3 things...
1 - breakfast with friend 2 - work out 3 - read
M44 H41 M20 T23 3 older teens Bomb Nov 09 "i'm not happy" EA Nov 09 w/coworker Another PA in Mar 10 I Filed Apr 10 D final Dec 10
me: 42 | STBXH: 41 | T: 18 | M: 10 | separation: Jan 3, 2010 | they deserve better: S7 & D4 current thread: http://tinyurl.com/3y8sxcp .: first breathe, then heal, then start LIVING :.
