I don't have a L yet and I don't plan on getting one until I'm served D papers.
This OW is a gem isn't she. I truly believe that my H will see right through her some day and regret everything that he has done.
Another thing that has helped me these last few days is that I realized that my H is suffering too. Don't get me wrong, I think he is the one that is causing his own suffering right now and he can't see that. That is one reason I think he is pushing for the D, in his mind he thinks all his pain and guilt will go away. So for me having a little sympathy for his pain, has helped me to not hold onto so much anger.
Together 16 years Married 12 years Me 36 H 34 D9 & S6 Separated 12/3/09 Confirmed A 1/25/10 Exposed A 1/26/10 H hired L, but not filed yet 1/27/10