H4L, I agree with LR. I don't think your chances of reconciliation are hopeless but you need to assume you are dealing with a drug addict. Until that's dealt with you can expect a lot of problems dealing with your H and you will need to be really strong.

Originally Posted By: Hope4Luv
Fm thank you for reminding me = being addicted to prescription drugs explains so much of his erratic behavior over the past eight months.
You have to remind yourself of this over and over. Not to excuse the behaviours but to remind yourself that there are forces at work here that you have no control over.

I suggest that you attend nar-anon meetings:
http://www.naranoncalifornia.org/

Here's some info about nar-anon:
http://www.nar-anon.org/Nar-Anon/About_Nar-Anon.html

This is a family problem. You can't control your H but you can set boundaries and place expectations...your H is the father of your precious S.

Belligerence is a symptom of opiate withdrawal:
http://www.hubplace.com/opiate-addiction.html

(((H4L)))

me: 42 | STBXH: 41 | T: 18 | M: 10 | separation: Jan 3, 2010 | they deserve better: S7 & D4
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