Should I send an email to H re: the joint account withdrawal?

On one hand, I know he is flat broke and SIL1 has been paying for everything for him since he keeps spending his pay on smokes, coffees, whatever.... She has been since he left so I assume she has continued to do so (since I haven't spoken to her in a few weeks now). I feel like by my not raising the issue with him again re: withdrawal from the joint account, I am being equally enabling...

Also, I don't want to set a precident where he can start feeling like he has a free pass to dip into my money whenever he's between a rock and a hard place. He seems to think that since he was so "generous with his pays" when he first left, that he's entitled to take $$ back now in bits and pieces.

On the other, I don't want to add fuel to the fire for such a small amount of money either. I usually do check the accounts when I know $$ are to come out, so I wasn't doing anything out of the ordinary. And he knows it's my habit to do so (since his work history was so erratic with job changes and him withdrawing $$ I pretty much had to develop that habit!)

He wants to be "separated" but only when it suits him to apparently..

I'm trying to decide if this is a battle I want to pick...

Any thoughts?

~ This Diamond now SHINES!! ;-p ~

My Sitch in MLC - http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Main=45253&Number=1901148#