flowmom | need to commit to myself

[flowmom]

What do you mean by building on his communications?

The coach suggested that when he brings up a topic by email or in person, to follow up on it and continue the thread of communication, even if it's a difficult topic. I haven't been good about this. I'm scared stiff of talking about anything and I'm sure that's becoming obvious to H. I never phone him, rarely email him, and when he tries to talk about things I usually cut things short or request that he email me about it -- in a pleasant way, but still. It's tricky because even pleasant chats can end up with talk about the future with D hanging heavily in the air or me briefly expressing my fears (like having to sell our apartment).