A thought just occurred to me that may help you,meghunny. The H you are seeing now is NOT the H you married. If you think of him like that, it might be easier for you to do things for yourself. All these things that he's saying to you are from his "new" personality. The end goal here is to help him want to return to the man you married, but not to FORCE it. So listen to what he has to say but don't stop your own life to try to save his.
Me: 26 Ex: 27 Son: 5
Divorced: 3/2010 Each day is another opportunity to do it right.