OTM, i said some things to my H on the phone about how he'd never been held accountable for any of his actions or behaviors, he'd never had to take responsibility for anything in his life, because the people in his life chalked his actions up to him just being him. i told him, it's not ok to treat people this way, it's not ok to walk away from your marriage and just expect that you can text me and ask me if i want to go to counseling 2 months later. i told him i was glad he was seeking counseling and taking a hard look at some of the things he didn't like about himself, but that no one ever made him "suffer the consequences" so to speak of his choices and his actions, at ANY point in his life.
his mother never really disciplined him when he was growing up. he's pretty much done what he's wanted, when he's wanted to his whole life and never really had to deal with any of the fallout. he got arrested at i think 16 or 17 for making fake ID's and the police called his mother to let her know he was spending the night in jail. her response to that was to tell the police officer to tell my H to pick up diapers on the way home (my H has 2 sisters that are now 13). so for him, owning up to what he's done has never been an issue.
when he said i was right about what i said, that's what he was referring to. that he'd never had to take responsibility for his actions.
Me30 H29 M2.5 T5 H moved out 1/23/2010 H wants signed agreement 3/30/2010 ...feeling hopeless
