The advice is wise and correct. Possible? Last night W and I dialogued (a RV thing). She misunderstood what I wrote to mean that she is not beautiful. (I was talking about the future, and wrote "I imagine myself walking with you into a room and introducing you to others that are younger and prettier, but smiling and showing others that I know I have something better than others.")
So I tried to clarify. I don't mean she's not pretty now, that I meant when we are older - ie we're both going to be wrinkly...
Her solution? She wants a separation again. First during spring break - wants me to leave. Then in the summer she wants to go see her family.
I accept that my comment could be seen both ways if desired. But to ask for a separation? That is why I just can't end the D just yet. Right now, we have until May. I need to know she's committed even if I say something that might hurt her accidentally.
I totally follow her anger if my comment was malicious. But accidental?? BTW - I woke up to find she had slept with the kids.
OMG!!! OTMT, do you not get how much you hurt her feelings!!!! This dialog exchange would upset her greatly. Your comment that others are younger and prettier- even if it meant you will love her regardless of her looks shows you fixation on looks. You royally screwed up big time!!!!
She is really, really HURTING. And that is why she wants a separation, NOT b/c she does not love you. Do you get that!!! She want s a separation b/c SHE IS HURTING!!!!
You NEED to fix this. Today, now. It will take more words and efforts than you think. Women get their feelings hurt more easily then men. You have to, I mean have to see things from her perspective.
YOU MUST that the D off the table. You stated that she is not allowed to D in your religion correct? You you hold the power. You need to MAN UP and regardless of her moods and your FEAR- you HAVE TO STEP UP and stop the D. YOU MUST RESCIND IT. Anything less shows that you are less than committed.
Oh brother!! You need to fix this, you! Not her you.
M38, H37 S3, S7 Together 15 yrs Married 8 yrs Bomb July 2008 Inhouse separation "I hate you" "We are over" (too many times to count) Reconciled Sept 2009 (still worth it)
