Kalni...having lived thru this (well, not as bad as what you suffered), all I can say is that there are a lot of questions above that you may want to put a line through. There are some that need to be answered.

This needs to be processed, here, now, lest much of your hurt gets varnished over only to blister and peel later.

We all read that, potentially, an affair can 'help' a marriage get back on track. Well, for me, I would much prefer a different method of marriage counseling. That is why it is key for the other spouse to be committed to making it work. Otherwise Kalni, you will walk on eggshells forever. Every late night...every trip out of town...you will worry.

You seemed to have made progress towards achieving your goal...of saving your M...over the last few weeks. I've always said that, as long as there is no further contact with OW, that, time is on your side. Work it.

FIB

Me 55; XW 47; 2 kids (S13, D11)
Bomb 05/19/06 Original thread http://tinyurl.com/yg2ou2t
Last anniversary 04/25/10, Divorced 5/12/10
Status: Loving father of 2 beautiful children;