MH: He said he is in this 100% to make the effort, but it seems more like he is just wanting to wait to see if something happens TO him, not if he can do something FOR it... you know what i mean?
This is a very good point. There's a lot of WAH situations on this board who fit this description.
Good luck at your appoinment. This seems like a tough situation. Sorry it is going on. You could blow things up by telling OW you read the emails and that he is having a lot of sex with you this week and ruin his planned fantasy trip by causing them to fight. But it could backfire on you and really mess up your chances for reconciliation. Does it get military people in trouble to have affairs at work?
Maybe you should go on the infidelity thread and see what they suggest. Don't listen to me. They have more experience with these things.
